There are many types of bullies. This article is how to deal with female bullies. Some are insecure, and try to find those who are weaker (those who have no boundaries, don’t stand up for themselves etc.)
Ignore her as often as possible. Bullies crave attention, and female ones aren’t much different. If she bothers you, she’ll expect a response, so if you decide not to give her one, she’ll eventually grow
bored with you. Sometimes they don’t, they get more intrigued by your lack of reaction to their taunts. Its make then wonder how you’re being so strong and calm. They’re jealous of you and angry at your cam response.
Tell a trusting adult. Make sure you tell them not to mention your name so you aren’t labeled a snitch. By doing so, not only will you get your problem out, but you’ll also be getting it off your chest, and sharing it with someone who cares.
Make eye contact with her. It shows confidence, that you could care less what she does. If she can sense your ‘weak’ or scared, she’ll go after that. When your making eye contact, And she looks at you smile and walk away. (As fast as you can please)
Find her weakness before she finds
yours . This is the key to making her stop. Make her feel bad about bullying and try to shut her up so that she can’t bother you. In other words, say something that she can’t answer. Nevertheless, make sure it’s not something that she can later make a comeback from.
Giving her assertive energy, can also
help, in some cases; it doesn’t need to be confronted, you already “had” . Remember, it’s only a phase and it can make you feel like it’s the worst thing in the world; but you won’t spend the rest of your life with her . If she feels the need to say “we” or “us” and you know it’s only her that’s bullying you . It shows that’s she’s a coward, and she is trying to intimidate you.
Is it you she’s only bullying? Maybe
she has other victims too. Talk to them about it; see if she is doing the exact same thing to others.
Hard kidding, making you the butt of the joke all the time, put-downs, and harsh criticism for no reason can’t slide, if it’s been going on for months or longer, it’s a red flag . If it’s a friend that’s doing this, your friend is slowly wearing you down and that’s indirect aggression.
Make a confrontation direct and brief, DON’T KISS UP TO HER! That’s weakness in her eyes and DON’T provoke anything. (Your talents provoke her already)
P.S : I was bullied in primary school cause I stammered a lot. Even my parents mocked me, unaware of what I had to face in school. I sulked everyday. Expecting them to see through me, but I guess when you’re not the smartest kid in the house you’re very invisible. Bullying is a stigma. You carry it for the rest of your life. And I hate myself for letting it happen. For crying in front of them, my brother for pushing me away at school so he wouldn’t be associated with me.
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